We’ll call the client we are talking about Margaret (name changed to protect the pet owner). Margaret had been in a relationship with her boyfriend for several years, feeling that she was in a fulfilling partnership. However, trust and respect continued to deteriorate as the abusive behaviors became more calculated, making it increasingly difficult for Margaret to reach self-sufficiency. The situation was compounded by her abuser using her dog as leverage, making it even harder for her to leave. She loved her dog deeply, who had been a loyal companion through so much. Repeatedly, she chose to endure the abuse to ensure that her beloved dog would always have someone to love and support her. Eventually, she experienced a breakthrough, realizing she needed to take control of her life and move forward. She reached out to us in desperation, seeking information and resources to assist her in her journey to freedom.
When Margaret contacted us and shared the background of her story and the abuse she endured, it was both heartbreaking and frightening to witness the extent of control her abuser held over her. Our first priority was to connect her with local agencies that focus on supporting victims, ensuring she had the resources to regain stability and independence. After confirming these connections (she had already been in touch with some organizations), we introduced her to our mission and explained how we could support her recovery, integrating her pet into the crisis planning process.
After several weeks of communication, Margaret was finally able to articulate the direction she wanted to take and the specific support she needed from PIH. We arranged to board her pet while she focused on finding housing and securing a job. When she came to pick up her pet, she even expressed interest in studying social work to help other women in similar situations. As we continue to provide assistance and remain actively involved, it is heartwarming to see her using the tools at her disposal to improve her life and prepare to prioritize her and her dog’s safety upon their reunion. At PIH, we continue to hope and pray for her healing and recovery.
Intimate Partner Violence is a harsh reality experienced by many Americans. For women, the rate is 1 in 3; for men, it is 1 in 10 (National Domestic Violence Hotline). For many individuals, including our clients, violent and often traumatic behavior does not appear immediately when two people meet. In some cases, manipulation plays a major role, with the victim developing a different perception of the abuser’s intentions and the relationship. Initially, the behavior might be seen as “love” or “protection,” but it often reflects a dynamic based on power and control. Contact the Domestic Violence Hotline if you or someone you know is in this kind of danger: 800-799-7233.
Written by Sydney Foster
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